and other lies

  Author: Scarlett Curtis


“The goal of the feminist movement … aims to give each person on this planet the freedom to live their life the way they want to live it, unhindered by sexism or oppression or aggression.”

After reading this book my first thought was: I think everyone should read it. Whether you’re a man or a woman, this is a must-read!

Growing up, we’re taught of feminism as a movement that’s not relevant anymore. Women have the rights to vote and work and many people assume that men and women are equal now. I can’t blame them for thinking that. Up until a few days ago, I was sceptical of the whole feminism relevancy in the current world. I am incredibly lucky to not have experienced anything that would have proved me to believe otherwise but I also think that it’s so important that everyone should be aware of the inequality still being very present in this world. I feel so privileged to be born in a country where girls have as many rights and career options as boys. I am so lucky to have grown up in a family where I was treated exactly the same as my brothers, where my gender didn’t matter in order to achieve my goals. But not everyone has a life like that. You can live comfortably all your life in your own little safe zone… or you can educate yourself, learn more, find ways to help or just spread the word!

Reading stories about  these strong and successful women made me feel inspired. They have gone through different experiences: some had to fight with every fiber of their being to be where they are now, to be treated the same as their male colleagues, to get the same salary… And it’s still happening today everywhere! Women are constantly fighting to get the same pay as their male colleagues, to get promoted and to just be treated equally in the workplace. You’ll find that even working in the same position, men will often get more important projects while women will be left to sharpen the pencils. That’s incredibly sad but it is the reality.

So what does feminism mean to me?

The truth is – I’m not sure yet. I don’t feel that I can answer this question until I educate myself more on the subject. But I know one thing and it’s the fact that I AM A FEMINIST. Why wouldn’t I be? I’m a woman and I believe in myself and other women.

“No matter where you’re from or the life you’ve lived, you’ll always find something in common and a shared dream with a fellow female.”

This quote is one of my favourites from this book. Why are we taught that everything in life is a competition? Why are we judging everyone else if they do something a different way than we would do? I’m tired of it. I’m tired of it because this is the reason I hated middle school. This is the reason for all the bullying happening in the world. I’m not saying that I don’t ever do it. It’s rooted so deeply in my mind that even if I don’t say it out loud, I judge people all the time. I hate it and I’m trying to change. Imagine if we lived in a world where we were all on the same team. No hate, no prejudices and no beauty standards. So, if you want that to happen, be on your own team! Support women, encourage them, love them. If they have your dream job, I bet they worked their butt off to get it. If they have a beautiful body, that’s probably because they take time to prepare their meals and go to the gym all the time. On social media or even when you see them, you will never know the struggles of their life. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated.

If you’re still with me and reading this, thank you. Thank you for being supportive of me and reading my reviews and my blog posts. Thank you for your likes or comments or your private supportive messages. This honestly means the world to me!

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